If your wedding day is your ‘big day’, then, surely, your proposal is your ‘big moment’. An incredibly exciting moment for both parties and a very nerve-wracking moment for the person asking, it’s something you want to do right. As providers of engagement and wedding rings, we at James Ross Jewellers have heard a huge number of stories about proposals so here is our guide to making your ‘big moment’ as special as possible.
Buying the Ring
Obviously, this is our area of expertise and we are always happy to answer questions in this regard. The first thing people inevitably ask is how much they should spend. The traditional figure was the value of three months’ salary but the organisation, De Beers, who first said that were trying to sell diamonds. We’d say take that with a pinch of salt. Our advice would be to pay what you feel comfortable with. Don’t feel like you need to spend up to a certain amount. If you see the perfect ring for your partner and it isn’t that expensive, that shouldn’t stop you buying it.
When it comes to the style of the ring including the type of stone, the shape of it, whether it is traditional or modern, etc. that is entirely down to what you think your partner might like. If you aren’t sure then either listen out for hints, like what they say about other people’s rings, or base it on the rings or jewellery they generally wear. We’d be happy to give you our opinion if you take a sneaky picture of their jewellery and bring it into our shop.
Choosing the Spot
Once you’ve got the perfect ring, where do you set your scene for the big question? This is where 80s romance films are not your friend. Not everyone will appreciate a big public proposal and not everyone’s ideal romantic setting is an expensive restaurant. It’s very important to make sure your ideal proposal venue is very personal to you and your partner. If you’re not sure what your partner would like, it might be time to take someone close to them into your confidence and ask their advice.
What to Say
Obviously, you’re going to say, ‘will you marry me?’ but how you lead into it might be something you’re worrying about. Honesty is the best policy and keep it simple if you aren’t in to using fancy words. As with the location of your proposal, soppy Hollywood films are not always a good guide on what to say either. It’s a totally personal thing but no one will object to hearing how you feel and why you want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Wherever and however you decide to make your proposal, remember that this is your moment too and revel in it. There is no right way or wrong way of proposing as long as it is what you and your partner want. If you do need any help choosing an engagement ring or wedding bands, come and see us at James Ross Jewellers in Portslade or call 01273 289 046.